I used to assume that an immediate, intense spark determined a relationship’s potential. If I didn't feel that initial love spark, I would dismiss the connection. I considered it a sign that the person wasn't right for me. Over the years, I’ve noticed that those immediate gravitational pulls could lead to people who weren’t so great for me. The spark was usually disguised as a lesson waiting to be uncovered. One that ended in a lot of growth, but also a lot of heartache.