Couldn't agree more! In a moment of stress and rushing I pulled my car into the garage too quickly, and scraped the body above our back tire. It is not pretty. I called my husband to let him know, and he responded, "Ok, it's just a car. I'm so glad you weren't hurt. We'll handle it." That level of kindness immediately lowered my blood pressure and made me feel truly supported. We still haven't fixed the car yet...
There’s something so special about that. And at the end of the day, it is just a car. I love that Andrew reacted that way. Always inspired by you two 💛
Aw thanks Danet, yes I absolutely agree. We will have rough patches in all aspects of life. We can’t just abandon ship when things get tough. (Obviously if it’s unhealthy, that’s a different situation, but we’re talking about the intention and work it takes to be in a relationship.)
What a truthful reminder this is Anna. My cinnamon moment has become parenting together with my partner, and this is something I’ve been actively working on, because it didn’t come naturally to either of us.
When I read your experience I immediately recognized it in my own relationship. Becoming parents revealed us as a great team in many ways, but it also brought that shake every couple faces when the original structure shifts and something new has to be built. The blame, the judgment, I know those moments as well. 🙈 What I’ve learned is that being a team as a couple is a different practice than being a team as parents, especially under pressure like a big move. It requires more consciousness, not less. And this is exactly the kind of awareness I keep coming back to, noticing the small things, the cooking, the favorite dessert that shows up at the right moment, not as coincidence but as a language my partner and I have built together.
I don’t always remember to receive it that way, but when I do, everything rebalances. Thank you for putting it so clearly, this definitely lands. 🙏
Couldn't agree more! In a moment of stress and rushing I pulled my car into the garage too quickly, and scraped the body above our back tire. It is not pretty. I called my husband to let him know, and he responded, "Ok, it's just a car. I'm so glad you weren't hurt. We'll handle it." That level of kindness immediately lowered my blood pressure and made me feel truly supported. We still haven't fixed the car yet...
There’s something so special about that. And at the end of the day, it is just a car. I love that Andrew reacted that way. Always inspired by you two 💛
I really needed this! While all couples go through rough patches it's important to stay together in those moments and work things out as a team.
Aw thanks Danet, yes I absolutely agree. We will have rough patches in all aspects of life. We can’t just abandon ship when things get tough. (Obviously if it’s unhealthy, that’s a different situation, but we’re talking about the intention and work it takes to be in a relationship.)
What a truthful reminder this is Anna. My cinnamon moment has become parenting together with my partner, and this is something I’ve been actively working on, because it didn’t come naturally to either of us.
When I read your experience I immediately recognized it in my own relationship. Becoming parents revealed us as a great team in many ways, but it also brought that shake every couple faces when the original structure shifts and something new has to be built. The blame, the judgment, I know those moments as well. 🙈 What I’ve learned is that being a team as a couple is a different practice than being a team as parents, especially under pressure like a big move. It requires more consciousness, not less. And this is exactly the kind of awareness I keep coming back to, noticing the small things, the cooking, the favorite dessert that shows up at the right moment, not as coincidence but as a language my partner and I have built together.
I don’t always remember to receive it that way, but when I do, everything rebalances. Thank you for putting it so clearly, this definitely lands. 🙏